I just don't understand some people. I understand people who need to be in control at all times, people who are insecure and need validation from others or themselves, people who think they know everything, people who can never be left out, people who are needy, and people who are bossy. I don't understand how one person can be all of these things and so much more.
I have a co-worker, lets just call them J, who is all of these things rolled into one very annoying individual. This person is the most annoying person I have ever met and there is no way around it. My unit has addressed the issues we have with this person on many many occasions and they are failing to see it. The hardest thing now is I have to go and talk to my supervisor about how our unit can deal with this in a professional manner because we are all at our wits end. I feel like we are in grade school and are telling the teacher but this is the only logical solution at this point. We can't address with J any other way and we feel as though J will think it is a personal attack and run screaming and crying to our supervisor if we do so. Here are few examples of the things J has been doing:
M and I have started our diet and have been doing really well all week. J is continuously offering us brownies, cookies, pizza, and various other take out on a daily sometimes hourly basis. J is not partaking in the diet and is trying to sabotage it cause J is not part of it. We have politely declined and reminded J we are on a diet. J goes in our desks while we are out of the office and eats all of our diet candy and snacks ect... Without asking.
J reads mail in our in baskets and thumbs through the paper work on our desks. J will violate personal space on level I didn't think possible or read emails and paper work while we are typing.
J will turn the ringer volume on our desk phones down or off while we are away from our desks for even 5 minutes. J will also dig through our desks, purses, etc to turn off the ringer on our cell phones.
J commands to be the one in charge all of the time and is not a good team player. J's ego is too big for our unit.
J will read case or do case work on families that are not J's therefore crossing clear ethical boundaries.
J will call our personal and business cell phones while we are out working and with clients to ask us things like what are you doing for lunch or where are you?
These are just a few of the things J does. J has no seniority or supervisory bearing over us she is equal to the entire unit. We have addressed all of these issues with J but to no avail J does not understand the message we are trying to convey. I'm going to talk to our supervisor tomorrow in hopes that she will have an idea on how to solve this. Your ideas and thoughts are welcome. Wish me luck.